So I used to be part of the population that thought porn users were just loser guys in their mom's basements or creepy guys under the viaduct. After 22 year of marriage, I found out my husband was one of these guys? A loser? A creep? What about the great guy that made me laugh or the man that I had shared a marriage bed with for the last 22 years? There were hints -- anger, distance, etc. I did have to beg the kids to clean up so "dad won't be mad" when he walks in the door.
Finally I had to face it head on. My husband was addicted to pornography and it was destroying our family from the inside out. First him, then our relationship and finally, his kids and how they saw their dad.
Marty has now been sober for 9 years and our family is healing and becoming stronger eveyrday. During this fight, I discovered Fight the New Drug. I couldn't believe that there was an organization that was reaching out to the kids and making this a conversation that they were not only willing to have, but to bring it back into their homes and open a conversation with their parents. I felt such relief to know that our kids were going to hafe not only a safe, but awesome way to leanr about this awful addiction.
I have an 18 year old that has learned more than he wants about this addiction and I think my voice became like the teacher in Charlie Brown "Waaah waaah waaah wah!" Fight the New Drug comes along and he is fired up -- has a sweatshirt, a wristband - Become a fighter, and a t-shirt "Porn Kills Love." We have that poster right about our computer and two Fight the New Drug stickers on his car.
Young voices who are passionate, knowledgeable and "cool." A way for parents to still educate their kids and TRUST what is said is huge. Once I found FTND, I was cool. I could even talk to his friends and not have him flip on me.
So, if you haven't gone to their website -- you really should. We are in a war against pornography -- are you going to give it any casualties? Not me. Check it out FighttheNewDrug.com. They ROCK! Wait, is that a cool tagline?
